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Some Thoughts as My Daughter Turns 4


My daughter turns four on Sunday. That’s insane. I know it’s cliché but it is crazy how fast kids grow up.

We’re having a party and this year’s theme is Tangled, the Disney version of Rapunzel, who is by far my kid’s favorite. She takes her blanket that my mother knitted for her when she was born and hooks it into the wrought-iron railing on the stairs and when Rapunzel slides down the tower on her hair (:19 second mark below), my kid slides down the stairs, pretending her blanket is her hair.

She has numerous Rapunzel dolls and figures, a few dresses, and even a long, blonde wig that she wore for Halloween last year. She’s been asking about her birthday for months and I can’t believe it’s here.

There is so much to do between now and Sunday.

If you do it right, parenting is tough. Super tough. And it can be frustrating and thankless and confusing. Sometimes, as Louis C.K. says, you daydream about kicking her out of window or wish she would stop asking questions. But it can also be wonderfully rewarding and able to introduce you to feelings you didn’t know you had. Plus, as my former therapist often remarked, “Kids don’t ask to be born.” You may not be able to provide everything monetarily, but you can answer their questions and expose them to all of the wonderful things the world has to offer.

And I love having a daughter. Everyone asks if I want a son for our second child and I say I want another daughter. That’s not true, of course. I just want a healthy baby. But I don’t have an overwhelming need to have a son. Maybe it’s because, since preschool, many, if not most, of my friends are female. Maybe it’s because I don’t have the need to carry on the family name. Maybe it’s because I don’t have an insatiable desire for my kid to be a world-class athlete (although, to be fair, that can be true of either gender).

[Here’s what I wrote when my daughter turned one]

She’s attached to me, following me into the bathroom, the car, the office, wherever. We play everything from basketball to chase to evil witch to shops to soccer to princesses. She has that toddler accent where she pronounces dresses like “dwesses” and she sings and does ballet in the living room. She’s an amazing person, far smarter and more curious than I ever was, able to connect different ideas better than some people I work with.

She can also be a manipulative pain in the ass that makes me angry and exhausted.

After all, she’s four, and I hate how fast she’s growing up.

Christopher Pierznik’s eight books are available in paperback and Kindle. His work has appeared on XXL, Cuepoint, Business Insider, The Cauldron, Medium, and many more. Subscribe to his monthly reading review newsletter or follow him on Facebook or Twitter.


By Christopher Pierznik

Christopher Pierznik is the author of 9 books and has contributed to numerous websites on a variety of topics including music, sports, movies, TV, personal finance, and life. He works in corporate finance and lives in northern New Jersey with his family. His dream is to one day be a member of the Wu-Tang Clan.

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